As I was reading this blog I found myself agreeing with all the 4 examples he used in this blog, especially the example about someone on a cell phone is public. The first example also is really important. Making a good first impression in the business world can be crucial.
1. Do you agree with the 4 examples in his blog?
2. Can you think of a time that you wished you had "embraced the silence"?
3. Is there another example you can think of when people need to "simply shut up"?
http://shankman.com/embrace-the-silence-or-when-to-simply-shut-up/
All four of these examples are exactly when I agree to embrace the silence. People talking out of place and/or too loudly can really cause some serious awkwardness... I know from experience as I was constantly told to be quiet elementary-high school. Which is why I believe that learning when and where to speak or discuss things comes with maturity and class. I did not grasp those concepts as a child as fully as I was expected to by my family and society. Now I often remember that having a big mouth was once useful and that finding a balance is what makes your voice so powerful. People that insist on carrying conversations on an elevator that hold an inappropriate topic truly disgust me.
ReplyDeleteYes, I agree with pretty much all of them. Sometimes people think that yelling and screaming at one of the employees is going to get you what you want; not all the time. I know I have the tendency to talk a lot and when I am asked a question I will give you an answer. Well now kind of have my own little embrace the silence. Whenever I am in a group or class, before answering a question asked by a manager or professor, I sit back and wait about 5 seconds to see what others may have to say. If no one respond then
ReplyDeleteI think people just need to “simply shut up” having a conversation. Sometimes there are those people who just keep talking, and talking, and talking and you can never fit a word in the conversation. It like if you are talking for more than 30 seconds, stop and see what someone else has to say.
I agree with all of these examples in his blog. He had some interesting reasons why a person would just want to shut up. I really thought #4 was the best one because that is a very smart way to find out new things and especially if you are looking for a job it will open you up to different ideas.
ReplyDeleteI don't have a specific moment when I should have "embraced the silence," but sometimes I wish I would think more often before I say something or possibly wording phrases differently so it doesn't sound mean or offensive.
I think there are a lot of times in class especially when people need to "simply shut up." Of course if it is insightful and something that should be said then go ahead. It sometimes aggravates me when a class would get off topic for a long time. (it's okay for a little bit)
I agree with all the examples he listed, I like that he made clear when it was appropriate to speak up when someone answers their phone in an inappropriate place/time. I also found the first example helpful because I sometimes find myself rambling on when I first meet someone but later have nothing else to say. I think its important to "shut up and listen" when someone is giving you directions/instructions. I think its very frustrating when people have to repeat themselves because someone was talking while they were giving direction the first time. It saves a lot of time when people just listen.
ReplyDeleteI agree with this blog- we should embrace the silence more often. All of the examples used were great. I have found times I should have "embraced the silence" when someone has complimented me on something like how my hair looked or an outfit & i'd say oh this old thing, etc... I think this is a good time to just shut up & say thank you. We should except compliments instead of downplaying them. If someone is nice enough to compliment us we should be nice & accept it.
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